10 Marriage Lessons We've Learned In 40 Years Working With Couples
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- 01 May 2023
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In our 40 years working together to help couples achieve their dream relationships, we have learned ten key tips to make a marriage last — and not just last, thrive.
We haven't just educated couples; we've been a couple for 44 years and built multiple programs and businesses together. From developing IMAGO 43 years ago to our latest passion project, Safe Conversations, which aims to teach every individual the transformative dialogue process. We have not only learned to "talk the talk" but also to "walk the walk" — even when it hasn't been easy.
Here are 10 communication tips for a great marriage
1. Zero negativity
All criticism, even “constructive criticism” not only fails to get us what we want but it’s a form of self-abuse since the traits we criticize in our partners are often projections of unpleasant truths about ourselves.
Instead of criticizing, explore why a particular trait in your partner bothers you so much. For example, perhaps his wanting “too much sex” is really about your own sexual inhibitions. Interested in diving in?
2. Acknowledge and accept your partner's 'otherness'
We all understand — at least on the surface — that our partner is a separate human being. But deep down we often see and treat him/her as extensions of ourselves. Practice seeing and accepting your partner as someone with different perceptions, feelings and experiences that are equally valid as your own. Read More…
