5 simple tips for dating after disappointment
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- 17 Mar 2023
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I was so looking forward to my date that evening. Over the past few weeks we had spent some enjoyable times together. We shared a faith and had bonded over our separate experiences of going through unwanted divorces. People were starting to treat us as ‘a couple’. But the minute I saw his face that evening I knew he was going to split up with me, and he did. It had been a shortish relationship yet the disappointment I felt was real. But I learned you can do yourself a massive favour at this point by accepting that disappointments are a natural part of life, including your date-life, and then turn them into something that actually helps you. Here’s what might help the process of dating after disappointment.
Don’t forget the positives
The following facts are true: someone has seen you, met you, talked to you, been attracted to you, and begun a relationship, even if at some point it did come to an end. If one person is attracted to you, there will be others, and one of them will be right for you, and you for them.
Through having been part of this relationship you will have gained self-knowledge and partnership skills (even if unconsciously) and this will enrich you for future relationships.
Cultivate your day-to-day life
Sometimes a breakup makes you feel at a loose end, as though empty evenings or weekends are yawning ahead of you. Consciously take steps to nip it in the bud. Instead of letting the weekend arrive unannounced, plan ahead to break it up with a few manageable social or other activities.
In my experience this distracts you and helps pass time in a way that leaves you feeling pleasantly tired by the end of the day and ready to enjoy your home for what it truly is: your personal cosy sanctuary, not an empty space just because it lacks a significant other. Read More…
