8 Things I’d Love My Boyfriend to Understand
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Loading... - Alice Patterson
- 31 Mar 2025
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Relationships can be simple, but sometimes they become complicated due to misunderstandings. Here are eight things I wish my boyfriend would understand to make our relationship smoother and more fulfilling.
1. My Period is Not “Just Cramps”
Every month, I go through a physical process that involves significant discomfort. It’s not just cramps; it’s a complex experience that can be painful and exhausting. When I mention my period, please acknowledge the struggle and offer support instead of dismissing it. A little extra care during this time goes a long way.
2. My Mood Swings are Not Always About You
My emotions can fluctuate due to various factors—hormones, work stress, or family issues. If I seem off, it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m upset with you. Give me space if I need it, but check in to show you care. It’s important for me to feel understood and supported.
3. When I Say ‘I’m Fine,’ I Am Not Fine
If we have a disagreement and I say, “It’s fine,” it’s usually not. I need you to recognize that I’m hurt and to apologize sincerely. I’m not trying to be difficult; I just want you to understand my feelings and validate them.
4. When I Vent, I’m Not Always Seeking Solutions
Sometimes, I just need to express my frustrations without looking for solutions. If I’m venting about a coworker or a situation, please listen and empathize rather than jumping in with advice. Sometimes, all I need is a sympathetic ear and maybe some ice cream afterward.
5. Always Reassure Me That You Love Me
Emotional reassurance is important to me. I know that men may not express feelings as often, but hearing “I love you” regularly means a lot. Simple affirmations like “See you later, babe, I love you” can strengthen our bond and make me feel secure in our relationship.
6. I Need Compliments from You, Not from Random Strangers
While compliments from others can be nice, they don’t replace the need for your acknowledgment. Notice when I make an effort—whether it’s a new outfit or a hairstyle—and let me know I look good. Your compliments mean more to me than anyone else’s.
7. If Other Men Admire Me, That’s Not My Problem
If I receive attention from other men, it’s not something I can control. I don’t enjoy unwanted attention, but if it happens, please don’t take it out on me. Instead, understand that it’s a reflection of my attractiveness, not a reflection of our relationship.
8. Can We Just Cuddle Sometimes and Not Have Sex?
I love our intimate moments, but I also cherish the simple act of cuddling. I enjoy being held, kissed, and touched without it leading to anything sexual. Physical affection without expectations deepens our connection and makes me feel loved in a different way.
Understanding these aspects of our relationship can help create a stronger bond between us. Communication and empathy are key, and I hope this list helps you see things from my perspective. Let’s work together to make our relationship even better!
