Five Ways to Make Your Long-Distance Relationship Work — With Less Drama
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Loading... - Shannon Bell
- 21 Feb 2023
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No, talking for hours every day isn’t one of them.
My partner and I just celebrated our 7th years long-distance anniversary last week. Sometimes we looked at each other (over a video call, of course) and said,
“I had no idea how we did it for years”
And that’s true. We didn’t expect it’s going to be this long of a journey. Will we choose a different type of relationship with someone else? Not necessarily.
But we wish someone could tell us how hard it is to actually pull it off. If you’ve been in one and are not sure how to keep it going, here’s what I’d say:
1. Communication style
Your communication style defines whether or not your long-distance relationship will last. That’s mainly because there is endless miscommunication in this type of relationship.
So if you shut down every 3 days after a fight and do not want to pick up the phone, then you’ll only bring yourself more pain.
Distance makes us work 10 times harder to express our feelings and emotions. It is what it is.
And one fight can easily turn into a big one if you don’t have a healthy communication style. So before you talk about any future plans together, let’s focus on improving your communication skills first.
2. Future goals
Long-distance couples sometimes make the mistake of thinking they’ll just figure things out — as time goes on.
But it’s been 3 years and no one knows who’s going to move out of the country to close the gap. What the actual heck?
Refusing to talk about future goals means you’re willing to waste your years. That’s why whenever someone asks me for any tips on long-distance, I’d first ask them about their future plans.
How solid is it?
If you’ve got this important part figured out, then it’s a great sign things are heading in the right direction.
3. Reassurance and other small habits
Having your partner’s reassurance is crucial in long-distance. Read More…
