How to cope with toxic family members
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Loading... - John Osoro
- 30 Sep 2022
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You may not be certain but deep down you know something is wrong with your family. This difficult realisation is one that many people are not ready to face, leave alone own up to, which is quite understandable.
You assume everyone grew up with similar dynamics and whatever you went through is normal when in essence it is not.
If you came from a family where you experienced violence, abuse, neglect or other forms of problems that affected you negatively, the truth is, you have a toxic family.
But before you accuse your mother of being absent or telling your father off for abusing alcohol, you need to understand what happened.
Families are made up of imperfect people. And if you dig deeper, you will discover that your mother went through something similar or almost the same growing up. Hurting people, hurt people. This, however, does not excuse their bad behaviour.
Once you identify who does what, and the impact that has had on your wellbeing, you need to set boundaries as an adult.
Let them know that certain behaviours are unacceptable and let them know what you will not tolerate. Be firm but kind. Read More…
