How to parent mindfully
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- 29 Mar 2023
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Losing her newborn son inspired Simone Derman to write an empowering journal to teach kids coping strategies and life skills they need to help them communicate better and to build their confidence. She talks to us about her journey to putting together her Mindful Me Life Skills Journal.
Tell us a little about your journey to writing Mindful Me Life Skills Journal?
In 2017, I lost my seven-day-old son, Knox, unexpectedly while I was still recovering in the hospital from his birth. This sudden loss sent me spiralling into grief and a few months of heavy depression and trying to drink and sleep my feelings away. I knew this wasn’t sustainable and I very soon realised that I lacked any skills or healthy coping mechanisms in order to deal with this trauma.
I knew I needed to get myself together, for the sake of my husband and my two remaining boys then aged 4 and 2. I turned to every form of therapy known to man in order to help process my loss. My motivations for immediately starting my healing journey were simple. I wanted to be the best mom and support system I could be for my two sons, I never wanted them to feel that they had a mother who was disassociated and emotionally unavailable to them.
While on my own healing journey, I started to notice my boys struggling. They were extremely anxious and most likely feeding off my anxious energy as well. Their struggle was hard for me to witness. I could also see they also lacked the vocabulary and tools to put their feelings into words, making things even harder for them to understand, nevermind process. They kept asking when their brother was coming home and they didn’t understand why their mom was so sad.
I noticed I was unable to hold myself in their discomfort so I wanted to start giving them techniques and methods that could help them understand their emotions in a very basic way. Read More…
