Laws of attraction
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- 13 Jun 2022
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Joburg couple Sibusiso and Kundi Dube tie the knot a little more than a year after their first date.
The meeting
Sibusiso: We went to the same university and both studied law, so we met about 15 years ago. We re-connected in August 2020 when Kundi was doing a series called The Legal Dish for her YouTube channel and she interviewed me, among other legal professionals. The rest, as they say, is history.
The attraction
Kundi: It was his confidence, intellect, thoughtfulness, humour, and muscles.
Sibusiso: I was struck by her smile, confident yet calm nature, easy-going personality, and genuine sincerity.
Dating
Sibusiso: Having reconnected after The Legal Dish, we were chatting via WhatsApp one evening and I asked her out for coffee. Coffee turned into hours of chatting and a meal. I couldn’t wait to see her again, so I gave her three date options for the coming weekend — she chose two. A couple of dates later and I asked her to be my girlfriend, she said yes. Most of our dates were at different restaurants, a tradition that we have carried on throughout our relationship (we love trying out new places).
The lightbulb moment
Kundi: On the first date. I had observed and interacted with him over social media and liked what he portrayed, so I was keen to see whether we would “vibe” in person. We definitely did, and that’s when I knew. Thereafter, every interaction was just confirmation. When he had flowers delivered to my office after our third date, I remember being so excited because it was then that I knew that the feeling was mutual.
The proposal
Sibusiso: The planning for the proposal started after three months of dating. My initial plan was to propose after six months but, because we chatted about everything, she politely told me not to do that [laughs]. We always discussed getting engaged after about 12–14 months of dating, which was the plan (we obviously plan everything).
About 10 months into our relationship I started making arrangements to get a ring designed for her; we had been to jewellery shops a number of times so I knew what she liked. Leading up to our one-year anniversary I made her believe there was a grand celebration planned, which she believed would be the proposal. About two days before our anniversary I took her to a picnic at a hotel she had previously mentioned wanting to go to for lunch.
I knew I would not be able to keep a straight face throughout the afternoon, so as soon as we arrived at the venue and we were set up I got down on my knee and asked her to marry me. She said yes…
