Why women are more keen on getting married
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- 02 May 2022
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Some people argue that some women consider marriage as a band-aid to solve personal life problems. Some say some women are so desperate to get married that they intentionally get pregnant as a way of getting a man to commit.
A clinical psychologist at Somedics Polyclinic Health Centre in Dar es Salaam, Saldin Kimangale explains the reasons that make some women to always think about marriage every time they enter into a relationship.
The psychologist says most women seem to be keener on getting marriage because of the fact that men who are ready for marriage are hard to find. A majority don’t seem to be in a hurry to marry.
“Most men are very selective when it comes to marriage because they consider a lot of things. Apart from physical appearance, men consider economic factors. They prefer a woman who can financially contribute to the union rather than one who is a hundred per cent dependent.”
He adds; “Some men take their time to commit because they want to build their life before entering into marriage. Some fear responsibilities and therefore choose to remain single while engaging in multiple relationships with no strings attached,” he says.
Referring to the 2012 census, Kimangale adds that the fact that there are more women than men is another reason. The expert says all these factors make it hard to find men who are ready for marriage.
Women who find themselves in serious relationships therefore consider themselves lucky and won’t let the opportunity slip by. They do whatever is possible to ensure they walk down the aisle.
Kimangale mentions social security as another factor that makes women seem to be in a rush for marriage.
“Despite the campaigns to empower women, society believes social security lies in marriage. So no matter how smart or financially stable a woman maybe, she still needs a partner to feel complete as a human being, which is why when she finds one she focuses her energy on marriage,” says Kimangale.
He says women tend to feel confident, independent... when they are in a relationship and that they start doubting their beauty, confidence, independence and all that when they fail to get a partner for marriage.
Counselling psychologist from Mental Health Tanzania (MHT) Bosco Bosco, says since marriage involves the mind, it’s important to understand why most women think about marriage the moment they enter into a relationship. Bosco believes social pressure, environment and dependency are factors that influence women’s desire for marriage.
He says social pressure is one of the huge factors when it comes to marriage. This happens when women start making comparisons with their married friends and wish to get married themselves.
“Women want marriage to show off and also because they found someone who is able to provide for them,” says Bosco. He believes if a woman is mentally stable, they can never succumb to social pressure to marry but would take their time and marry when they want. He says social pressure makes a lot of women want marriage...they observe other people’s life and end up wanting the same for themselves. Read More…
