15 Signs the Spark in Your Relationship Has Gone
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- 05 Jul 2022
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It is normal for sparks in relationships to sometimes wane. This is just an indication that something has to be done, and more attention has to be given to the relationship. So, do not fear that the spark in your relationship is fading; instead, realize that something has to be done—do it. These are 15 signs that the spark in your relationship has gone and how to fix it.
1. Something Just Feels Off
This is called a gut feeling and is usually the first indication that your relationship is losing its spark.
You can’t exactly point at what is wrong, but deep down, you know a couple of things require attention. You don’t feel calm. Instead, you feel edgy and can’t relax into loving your partner the way you should.
2. Fewer Words of Affirmation
Words of affirmation are necessary for every healthy relationship. Partners have to let one another know how they feel and be honest and open about it.
When you notice that you or your partner is saying fewer and fewer words like “I love you,” you should realize that the spark is fading.
Even when they do say it, how does it sound in their mouths? The way it did when you both had first started all of this, or just bland? Bland means the spark is fading.
Most marriages screeched to a halt because at least one and often both yearn for companionship, passion, and connection.
3. Fewer Dates
And we mean real dates. The kind you both used to go on earlier. Eatery dates. Swimming dates. When the spark is gone, you will have much fewer dates because it just isn’t going to matter anymore.
Rather than be concerned with the relationship and how to spice it up, you will be concerned with just your own routines. The relationship becomes a routine, even. No spice. No dates. Nothing.
4. Sex Needs Resurrection
Healthy sex life is an indication that the relationship is going well, as both partners are so attracted to each other that they feel intense sexual tension when the mood is right.
However, when the spark starts to fade, this sexual tension follows it.
Spark is very related to sexual tension. If you find that you are no longer that sexually aroused by your partner, you should know the spark is fading.
Especially if, after sex has been initiated, it feels like a chore—like just rocking bodies with no emotions involved.
5. No Cuddles
You know the after-sex routine. Cuddle and chill and just enjoy each other’s company.
When the spark starts to fade, this routine will fade with it. You will find that not only is the sex bland, the events that follow after the sex become weird and uncomfortable.
For example, instead of leaning in for a kiss or trying to hug you, or just keeping eye contact, they just get off the bed and leave. It becomes as though they have only been having sex to satisfy an urge and nothing more. A 2012 study found that 55 percent of couples who got divorced were due to growing apart. Read More…
