4 Conversations Every Couple Should Have Before Sex
But so few couples actually do.
We talk about sex too much…and yet not enough.
We talk about surface-level body parts and techniques but we rarely have meaningful conversations about intimacy.
We love to be sexually vulnerable but are rarely emotionally vulnerable with our partners.
Our need for true intimacy (emotional, intellectual, and spiritual) has been overshadowed by society’s emphasis on the physical. The more society celebrates “hookup culture,” the more this gap widens.
The more mindless sex we have, the further we are from achieving true intimacy with our partners.
Here are four conversations every couple should have before they introduce sex into their relationship.
(But few actually do.)
The meaning of sex
Men and women are naturally inclined to view sex differently. The old saying goes, “Men use love to get sex, and women use sex to get love.”
Generally, sex is more of an emotional experience for women and a physical experience for men.
While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, both parties involved need to come to a common understanding of what they are entering into together. If one person views sex as a special and emotional experience and the other sees it as just an enjoyable bodily function, there are going to be problems.
If one person views sex as the ultimate expression of love that should be reserved for a singular spouse, and the other views it as an exchange that should be shared with multiple romantic partners throughout a lifetime, there are going to be problems. Read More…
DEBDUT BHADURI
awesome