5 Signs He'd Rather Chill Than Commit
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Loading... - Heather Craven
- 16 Mar 2022
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Is he acting a little sketchy? Find out about red flags he may not be ready to commit.
1. Your texts go unnoticed
He’s really hard to reach this week and your texts stay on delivered. You assume he’s busy. Between practice and studying, he doesn’t have time to talk. WRONG. A text takes less than a minute to send. Explaining what he’s doing and why hasn’t been responding is pretty basic consideration for someone. A man that cares would want to explain. He’d want you to feel confident in the bond you guys share.
Someone that’s looking to hang around for a good time is a person that doesn’t mind ghosting or ignoring you any chance he gets. As girls, we worry about double text or texting too much because that might make us look desperate. When in reality, it should be the other way around. Guys should be the ones up late at night wondering why we haven’t texted them or appreciate the time we take to text them He may be trying to blow you off, but at least have the respect of letting you know this is no longer what they want.
2. His attention is distant
Do you ever find yourself talking to him and his attention is somewhere else? Now, you have to be careful with this one before jumping to conclusion. Many times, guys don’t know how to express themselves when something in their lives is going wrong. They tend to repress it. Try talking to him about it first. If he doesn’t seem genuine with his explanation or worse, seems like he’s lying about it, then you should worry. Words say so much about people and the words you choose to use can give off certain signals. Someone can feel if you are telling the truth or lying, without knowing the real answer. If his attention is distant, it’s because he’s not being honest with you. He’s creating an invisible line between the two of you, so he won’t feel hurt when being distant. Consider doing the same and see if that changes anything. Suddenly, you seem distracted and out of tune. You’re quiet when together and you tell him you’re alright every time. He’s going to start to wonder what it is and how he can fix it. It’s male nature to want to fix a problem and you’re appealing to that area by acting differently.
3. He won’t talk about the future
A man that is afraid of the future, is a man who’s not ready to commit. You guys have been dating for a while and the subject of kids and marriage comes up. He seems to sweat a little more or change the topic every time. You’re starting to wonder if this man sees a future with you or is just along for the ride. So many times, guys shy away from telling girls how they feel on a certain topic, because of the fear of how we’ll react. Fear that we will get mad or cry, maybe even both. The point is, guys assume a scenario in their head and leave us out of the discussion. If he’s not ready for a future with you and isn’t talking to you about it, that’s a disadvantage to you. Something as important as your future should be a priority conversation. If he doesn’t feel like the relationship is heading down that path, he needs to let you know and stop wasting your time. It does no one any favors by sparing the others feelings because they can move on to someone who does see a future with them. Put this to the test!
