Are you in a codependent relationship? Here are the signs, but also how you can "escape"!
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- 27 Jul 2022
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When looking for a partner, it is important to realize from the beginning whether his lifestyle and behavior match your way of being and thinking, for a good long-term understanding and relationship as "healthy" as possible.
However, with the passage of time, all kinds of problems appear in the couple, which were initially overlooked.
What is a codependent relationship
Codependency occurs when between the partners in the relationship there is a situation of excessive dependence of one partner on the other, or even mutual.
Most often, a codependent relationship takes the form of one partner excessively needing the other partner, and the latter may in turn develop a need to be "wanted" and fulfill the other's every wish. More precisely, a partner can no longer do anything without his "other half", always relying on help of any kind.
These two roles can be considered "giver" and "receiver," or even "victim" and "savior," explains Gurpreet Singh, a relationship counselor, according to Cosmopolitan.
Codependency can also mean that two people are so emotionally invested in each other that it's difficult for them to function independently of each other, says relationship expert Helen Mia Harris, and this turns the relationship into a toxic one.
Basically, a codependent person will allow their partner to influence their behavior and feelings, letting the other person take control.
Need for help vs. codependency
The fact that you still need help from time to time does not mean that you are "codependent", but if your entire personality revolves around the need for a partner, then there is a problem. Also, in the other case, if your personal identity ceases to exist beyond the needs of your partner or relationship, this is another red flag.
Why is being in a codependent relationship dangerous?
A codependent relationship is an unhealthy relationship because it prevents both partners from functioning independently outside of the relationship.
" Codependency often turns into love obsession and vice versa. Sometimes, the more dramatic and painful a relationship is, the more a symbiotic dependency between two people strengthens. ”, says Helen Mia Harris.
Over time, there will be no more "boundaries" in that relationship, and one of the partners will lose their own identity, turning into a variant of the one they love. Thus, self-esteem decreases, and the person concerned believes that they would be "nobody" without their partner. The rule can also apply to both partners.
Also, such a relationship can cause long-term problems, even after it ends. A person who has just come out of a codependent relationship will be extremely vulnerable, says Gurpreet.
What are the signs that you are in a codependent relationship
1. There are no more limits in the couple
In any healthy relationship, partners must respect each other's boundaries. In a codependent relationship, these "barriers" break down and personal needs and desires end up being compromised. Read More…
