12 obstacles to understanding as a couple
According to the psychologist, harmony appears in our lives when we learn to look kindly on the one next to us, to appreciate him, to make him feel important, satisfied, fulfilled and helped. But, to the same extent, for harmony to be sustainable and real, not fake, it requires that the people around us adopt the same behavior towards us.
"Such common sense - to do unto another as you would have him do unto you - is an unwritten law of relations of any kind. Harmony is not a random process, sometimes it is based on certain chemical segments between two people. However, time brings with it showing and being honest with each other, down to the deepest things, thoughts, and feelings. The harmony desired is directly proportional to the harmony offered. Thus, there are many moments when you give and sometimes you get nothing, but at the same time you ask yourself: "Who am I doing all this for, if my partner doesn't appreciate it?" Why do I struggle and work so much, if the partner does not evaluate and does not enjoy our successes and, in addition, sometimes ignores me and treats me behind my back?". Current relationships are the object of the fulfillment of the highest experiences, not of self-centered or temporary satisfaction.
Obstacles that do not allow us to evolve in our relationship
The specialist identified several obstacles that prevent us from growing the relationship, helping and helping each other more:
- "Programs" of behavior (frustrations, annoyances, rejections, removals).
- Words thrown as reactions (leave me, leave, leave, you are..., I don't want, I don't feel like it, etc.).
- The illusion of other partners than the current one. Read More…
