Criticism: One of the Most Deadly Patterns That Destroys Relationships
I am always fascinated by relationships, and I aim to help people develop healthy relationships that always thrive.
One of the ways I have helped some individuals and couples having relationship challenges is by identifying the behaviors that were responsible for the shortcomings in their relationships.
In some sets of couples, it is a negative pattern in their interactions.
In the marriage of Tara & Kay, they haven’t spent 10 minutes in my office before I was able to identify one of the deadliest viruses called criticism in the way she interacts with her husband.
Her conversations were laced with criticism instead of complaint, she used a lot of generalizations lines such as ‘he never, he always.’
I was able to walk with Tara & Kay after identifying this by helping them differentiate between criticism & complaint.
Don’t be mistaken, it is normal to have complaints about one’s partner, but the complaint should not be poised as criticism, because criticism is one of the silent killers of passion and romance in relationships.
To differentiate.
1. A complaint focuses on a specific behavior or event while a criticism focuses on the person and attacks the personality.
2. A complaint has three parts:
3. Stating how you feel
4. Being specific about the situation/event of concern
5. Mention what you want/need/prefer.
