Is Your Ex Hurting Your Current Relationship?
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Loading... - Alice Harrice
- 20 Mar 2023
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Kate has been dating someone for a few months now. She really enjoys spending time with this new person and wants to progress the relationship further. But while she’s excited about this new relationship, she’s been feeling confused and guilty because her ex has been on her mind.
It’s completely normal to compare your current relationship to your past one. Doing so can offer you a healthy perspective. And you need to think about your ex in order to heal from your past relationship and move on. It can also be a way to strive for better this time around and be mindful to not repeat past mistakes. While your ex may not have been on your mind for a while, entering into a new relationship can jog memories of the past.
Dating While You’re Still Thinking About Your Ex
Whether you’ve re-entered the dating world or you’re seeing someone regularly again, thoughts of your ex can complicate things. Chances are you’re experiencing a full range of emotions. You might feel excited to be dating again and simultaneously resistant because of your last relationship. Whether you like it or not, dating is bound to stir up memories of your most recent relationship.
Innocent reasons why your ex is coming up:
1. Healthy comparison
Of course, there will be some comparing when a new person takes over the role of your partner. You’d compare your new boss with the old or the new teacher that’s taking over. It’s human nature to look for similarities in differences when someone or something is the “new version”.
2. You had a close bond with them
You shared intimate parts of yourself with that person. A connection like that will make an impact on you, forever.
3. You shared some good memories together
Of course, there were good times. It’s normal to think back on those times fondly. Read More…
