Online Dating Is Really Ruining Romance
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- 06 Apr 2023
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Should we just go back to the basics?
I’ve been single for seven years now.
Each year of my life, that number gets larger, and I wonder when it may ever change. For the better part of that time, I’ve wished I had a partner and yearned for the universe to give me the sweep-me-off-my-feet, meet-cute-sparked, star-crossed love I saw in all the movies and read in all the books; only in the last two years have I start to become more comfortable — and truly content — being single.
In the times when I wished for a partner, I would consult online dating apps. I tried my hand at it, but it never worked. In fact, it made me feel sick.
To preface, I’m not shaming anyone who engages with online dating sites or apps. I have friends who have met really awesome partners on dating apps. I know why people seek love there. I think it’s wonderful that we’ve created another mode of socialization in this world.
But I will say this:
I know more people who have had bad experiences with these apps than people who have had success.
And that has nothing to do with the people who go on these sites (at least, those looking for genuine love) and everything to do with what these apps do to us.
I can’t speak to online dating sites, but online dating apps have become a cesspool of validation-hungry people or horny people with nowhere else to go or people just looking for something superficial.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with this; everyone needs validation sometimes, most of us get horny once in a while or more often than that, and it’s okay to seek superficial relationships sometimes. But when there’s so many people from those demographics, these apps disadvantage people who are looking for something real. Read More…
