Red flags that most people ignore when starting relationships
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Loading... - Huso Abdille
- 15 Mar 2022
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There are subtle things that most people often turn a blind eye to in their partners. Though small at first, these flags later raise towering issues.
How keen are you on noticing the following red flags albeit being color blind?
Problem-solving and level of reasoning
You can’t seem to have a conversation to talk over your problems in the relationship. She has a tendency of sweeping issues under the carpet. He is escapist par excellence, always downplaying your request for accountability.
You can’t reason together and come to agreeable terms over a certain decision. She can’t understand why you had to take a certain step. His or her level of reasoning is rounded off to the nearest puerility. Red flag.
Communication inconsistencies and put offs
This red flag come with the preamble “Kata niongee na mtu nakupigia (I'll call you back, I have to take an urgent call)” anytime you are in a call with your partner, a pure killjoy.
Calls past a certain hour go unanswered. When you ask, a flimsy excuse is always given. The phone is also not nearby every time you call and you can’t help but wonder, "It’s been a week since the last call, am I still a priority?"
You recall checking their phone log only to realize they still frequently call a specific ex. Red flag.
Attitude and bad temper
Her attitude rivals that of an underpaid and overworked shop attendant. She hurls invectives faster than a javelin thrower anytime you argue.
You have noticed how he shouts at waiters and security guards. He is very temperamental and his anger flares up quicker than a lion’s nostrils.
Who is to say you won't be on the receiving end as such a person's partner? Red flag.
Narcissistic
While self-love and self-preservation are all understandable human traits, let's accept and realize that a person needing a relationship to centre around only their needs, wants, opinions, ambitions, worries, or just them all the time is not normal.
If your partner never shows interest in you or the things that matter to you but demands that you do that for them, you might be dealing with a narcissist and if you're an empath then there's no way that will go well. Read More…
