The Divorced Person's Guide To Online Dating
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- 15 Mar 2022
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Let’s face it, dating can be a daunting experience for anyone. To worsen matters, it can become a nerve wrecking experience if you’re re-entering the dating world after a long break and a traumatic break-up.
As if you didn’t have enough on your hands without the heartbreak from your previous failed relationship, trying to re adjust to life now on your own but now you disover that you’re an absolute novice when it comes to the new rules of dating! It’s enough to send you to a cabin in the woods!
Here are some tips for dating after divorce.
Online or offline dating?
Should you find love online or offline? The answer to that relies to a large extent on the amount of time you have at hand as well as your confidence level. It’s quite normal to feel pretty unconfident about your attractiveness after the morale-kicking expereince of divorce, which makes online dating an appealing way to start dating again. However, a word of warning here: just as you may still be in the ‘walking wounded’ category, so may many of the other people you meet online and although you may think you’re ready for a new relationship, you may not be as ready as you think. Be gentle with yourself, and with them!
Choice of dating sites
Should you go for free or paid dating sites? To master the online dating linguo and tricks, give free online dating sites a try. There’s no reason to think that if it’s free then it’s not as good as the paid ones. Far from it – free dating sites attract more members and you have a wider choice of partners to pick from. Once you feel you’ve got a better grasp of the way online dating sites function, you can move to a paid site in order to take advantage of members-only benefits. You may also opt for a specific dating site as opposed to a more general one. For example if you are divorced, you may want to sign up for a dating site catering exclusively for divorcees. If you are gay, you may go to gay dating sites. The advantage of signing up for focused dating sites like these is that you are more likely to meet like-minded people who are seeking exactly the same thing as you. It may be that they too are going through the challenge of making co-parenting work!
Your Dating ‘Profile’
Before initiating conversation with you on a dating site, interested dates will first go look at your profile – it’s a cross between a romantic resume and a personal ad, so it’s of paramount importance for you to get your profile right. This means not only do you keep it updated by checking in to the site regularly, but that you also share information about yourself that makes you sound like someone they’d like to meet. If you’re not sure what to write, take a look at some of the other ads by your ‘competition’ – most people make so little effort with either their photo, their user name or their written description that you really don’t have to make much of an effort to stand out from the crowd!
Psych up yourself
Online dating works like magic for some, but for many people it can be a chaotic and demoralising experience Treat it as a fun way to get your ‘dating skills’ up to scratch, rather than the answer to your loneliness or grief. Be aware that there will be people (just like in the ‘real world’) who are not completely honest, and who may take advantage of your new status to spin you a story. For example, some may lie about their current relationship status, for example married men pretending to be single or others may go to extremes to swindle money from gullible online daters. Have fun and be safe! Read More…
