The Cold, Hard Truth About Long-Term Relationships
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Loading... - Bertha Friedrich
- 09 Feb 2023
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Have you become comfortably numb?
There’s no getting away from the fact that couples in long-term relationships impact each other profoundly, in small and large ways.
If you’re a couple who lives together, there are moments throughout each day that bring you together to discuss something, to work on a task, to accomplish an errand, to share a story, or listen to one.
Partners flow in and around each other with such symbiosis, that we can sometimes feel like we’re one mechanism with a shared mind.
The functioning nature of our long-term partnerships becomes hardwired into our brains, just like everything else we do, day-in-day-out. Once settled into any repetitive pattern, our neurons are designed to minimize energy and attention on the subject at hand. It’s effective, it’s familiar, it’s secure, and in the case of relationships, it’s hazardous.
We become numb to our partners.
This is the cold, hard truth about LTR’s (long-term relationships). The good news is this numbing disease is not terminal. There is a cure. It’s called awareness.
Just as we trained our brains to become ‘comfortably numb’, we can train our brains to bring awareness to our daily encounters with our partner. Awareness wakes us out of our slumber of familiarity, and reminds us numerous times a day, that we can shift out of old patterns and into new ones. Read More…
