This 5min Relationship Check In Will Transform Your Marriage
At its most basic, a relationship check in is a structured time for couples to assess the health of their relationship. When done right, this foundational relationship practice allows you to address underlying issues, capitalize on what’s working, and plan for your future together.
Relationship check ins are also known as a marriage meeting, a couples check-in, a relationship check up, a “state of the union” meeting, or as we sometimes call them, a relationship review.
But whatever you call it, the aim is the same:
To help your relationship be the best that it can be, and to make sure you both feel fulfilled and connected.
Before we started doing our relationship check in we found it difficult to bring up issues with each other:
We’d walk on eggshells trying to figure out when was the ‘right time’. But the longer we waited, the worse it got, until one of us would blurt out something hurtful and we’d end up in an argument.
(Sound familiar?)
But a relationship check in changed all that for us, and it’s since become a time of connection and quality conversation that we genuinely look forward to.
Which is why we believe you need to start your own check in ASAP.
There are some important steps to include (and some common mistakes to avoid) to help your relationship check in go smoothly.
So let’s start here:
How Often Should You Have a Relationship Check In?
Generally, the more often you have a relationship check in, the better. Once per week is a great place to start, but if you struggle to fit it into your schedule, bi-weekly or monthly can work too. The most important thing is to pick a regular time and set reminders so that it actually happens.
The advantages of a weekly check in is that you build a strong habit together – which means you’re less likely to forget. And especially when you first start out, you might have more topics you want to talk about.
When we first started our relationship check ins, we set aside time each Friday afternoon and simply put a weekly reminder in our calendar to keep us accountable.
Over time, we’ve found we don’t need to have our check ins as regularly, so the best way to find out what works for you is to get started, and then re-assess as you go.
How Do You Do a Relationship Check In?
Here are seven helpful, easy-to-follow steps to have your own successful relationship check in:
1. Pick A Regular Time
Ideally, you want to be relaxed, present, and in good spirits, so don’t schedule a check in after a long day at work, or right before you need to rush out the door. You want to bring your best to these meetings. Read More…
