Tips And Tricks For Finding The Right Person
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- 31 May 2022
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You’ve been dating for months, perhaps years. Gone on blind dates and dinners with that accountant your Aunt Martha suggested would be just perfect for you, all in service of finding the right person… and it hasn’t worked out yet. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. When it comes to dating, almost everyone wonders when you’ll find the right person. In this article, we’ll look at a few reasons you haven’t found the right person yet, how to find them, and how to be sure they’re really right for you.
WHY YOU HAVEN’T FOUND THE RIGHT PERSON YET
Nobody sets out to be single forever. That said, there often reasons why finding the right person just isn’t happening.
1. YOU’VE GOT EXCESS BAGGAGE YOU HAVEN’T DEALT WITH
The truth is, finding the right person for you is easier when you forget about looking and instead focus on being the kind of person someone would like to date. That includes dealing with issues from your past and going to therapy if you need to. You need your head in a good place for when you find the right person.
2. YOU’RE TOO PICKY
Yes, everyone’s got a list and/or a type. However, it’s one thing for that list to be a guideline and another for it to be pages of requirements. The former is workable, the latter, less so – when you restrict yourself to a certain kind of person, you’re missing out on all the other wonderful potential dates that don’t meet your narrow criteria.
3. YOU’RE TOO NEEDY
It’s fine to care about finding the right one – needing to be in a relationship, however, is not. When you need to be in a relationship, not only do you settle for less awesome partners than you deserve, you’re also being unfair to your partner – after all, people want to feel special and chosen, not like they’re a better option than being alone.
4. YOU’RE MAKING BAD DATING CHOICES
From Beauty and the Beast on, we’re inundated with the idea that people (but especially young women) can change a bad man to a good one through the power of love. Stop. No. That might work in a fairy tale, but in real life? People don’t change unless they want to, and you deserve better than to waste time and effort trying to make them.
5. YOU’RE SIMPLY IN THE WRONG SEASON OF LIFE
Although pop culture would have you believe otherwise, there’s nothing wrong with being single. Sometimes, the time simply isn’t right for a relationship – perhaps work is extremely busy or you’re simply not over a previous relationship. Whatever the reason, sometimes it just isn’t the time for finding the right person, and that’s okay.
10 TIPS FOR FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON
How to find the right person is a question asked by many. These tips may increase your odds of success:
· Work on yourself – don’t just count on being nice, especially if you’re a guy. Work on being interesting, as well as being a good listener, the sort of friend and partner you yourself would like to have. You want to be someone worth dating when you finally find the right person.
· Do things! Yes, online dating is one method for finding the right person, but don’t discount game nights, dance classes, or even trivia night and the local bar. Step out of your comfort zone!
· Use your values to help guide your search. Is faith important to you? Ask around if any religious friends know someone single who’d be a good match. Don’t want kids? Make sure you let your partner know early so they don’t invest too much time in an incompatible match.
