What Not To Do After A Breakup
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Loading... - Drew Hamilton
- 11 Jul 2022
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Breakups are tough. We know that, so we have provided a list of things you definitely should not do after a breakup. We hope that this list helps you as you walk through heartbreak and try to move on.
1. Don’t Listen To Sad Music
Sad or romantic music will just make things worse. Try to not listen to those music genres. Consider making a playlist of your favorite songs so that you aren’t caught off guard by something on the radio. You can also listen to podcasts or audiobooks so that you don’t sit in silence. Try to avoid sad songs while still playing some music in your room.
2. Don’t Talk Poorly About Your Ex
Talking poorly about your ex will make things worse for you and them. If you and your ex have the same friend group your nasty words will eventually be repeated to them. If you don’t have anything nice to say, just don’t say anything at all.
If you want to unpack everything that happened, talk with a trusted friend or mentor. They will listen to you, provide comforting words, and help you move on. If they have been through a breakup, they can give you positive affirmations to speak over yourself rather than dwelling on your bitterness.
3. Don’t Look Through Old Pictures
Definitely don’t look through old pictures after you break up. This is a sure way to stir up feelings and make you want your ex back. You may want to delete the pictures so that you are not tempted to look at them. You will also want to take down any picture frames that have you and your ex in them. Remove all the reminders of them from your house so that you are free to move on.
After deleting the pictures with your ex, keep taking pictures with friends! Create new memories and preserve them in pictures. Taking new pictures to replace the old ones is one way to ease the pain of a breakup.
4. Don’t Look Through Text Messages
Delete any messages between you and your ex. Even if you get back together, you do not need those messages. Looking through old messages will make you miss what you had even more. If you hesitate to delete the messages, ask a friend to hold you accountable. In the long run, you will be much happier if you don’t allow those messages to tempt you.
5. Don’t Isolate Yourself
Don’t avoid your friends after a breakup. If they are true friends, they will want to comfort you. True friends will hold you while you cry and listen to you without talking. If your friends don’t make a point to be there for you, you might want to find a different friend group.
Make plans to hang out with your friends! Sometimes it is better to stay busy as the rawness of a breakup wears off. Plan a shopping day, go to a movie, have a spa day, or invite your friends to your house. If you avoid people, you will feel more lonely and you will have a much harder time getting over your ex. Read More…
