Your Personal Happiness Is Dependent on Deeper Self-love
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- 02 Mar 2023
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Personal happiness is the only kind of happiness that matters today because other people aren’t living out your happiness (or unhappiness).
It’s important to know deeply why that is and what personal happiness could do for you, so you don’t end up living a life chasing happiness from the wrong lens counting on certain situations and external things to pan out for happiness.
In life, everything is fleeting… and the exciting newness always wears off like fading memories of yesterday’s good times.
…And that’s how external love is too in passion or infatuation. And as a touchy subject this week (Valentine’s Day week), I’m going there because we can all be happiest by loving ourselves first.
We are there by ourselves and when we’re in a relationship. So prioritizing your relationship with yourself is the main path to your personal happiness.
And if we focus on the happiness roller coaster fueled by fleshly wants (and trying to catch the next high that sets us up for wanting more), that leads to unhappiness because of regrets on impulsive decisions.
…Or eventually, there will be a disappointment that comes along (you may have already felt and learned this earlier on, and if so, then this can be a good reminder).
And so then if the external happiness lens is the only one we know for happiness, then the fall can be hard.
And if this is newer to you as it was for me in my twenties and early thirties, you can spare yourself years of unhappiness learning these lessons from a stranger frequently writing in the Medium community… and just saying, most people won’t share these sobering tips that don’t often win points.
But since this point is often missed (and already I’m here out on a limb), I’ll finish by saying: material gains that aren’t rooted in growing yourself and helping others grow are the opposite of filling yourself up and your spirit within that can help feed your healthy, happy soul (and that IS long-term sustainable happiness). Read More…
