8 Signs Your Relationship Is Really Just a String of Manipulative Love Bombs
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- 31 Mar 2023
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Have you ever felt like things were too good to be true with the person you're dating? At the very beginning, perhaps they showered you with compliments, attention, and, in general, made you feel as special. But as soon as you felt comfortable settling into this new normal, your partner flipped the script. You, my friend, may be the unfortunate target of a love bomb.
A love bomb refers to the form of emotional manipulation in which a person—and often a narcissistic person—“bombs” you with an over-the-top amount of affection, flattery, gifts, and praise early in the relationship in order to win over your attention for the purpose of being able to control you. “People with narcissistic personality disorder typically have such a low sense of security in themselves that they get their self-esteem from external validation,” says therapist Mallory Grimste, LCSW. “Since they feel so out of control, they try to control others in order to feel better about themselves.”
A love bomb refers to when a narcissistic person “bombs” you with an over-the-top amount of affection, flattery, gifts, and praise early in the relationship in order to win over your attention for the purpose of being able to control you.
But it's tough to notice the early signs of love bombing since it generally takes place during the portion of a narcissistic person's abuse cycle when things are great, says Grimste. (Remember, narcissistic folks do tend to be charming for a period of time.)
So below, experts outline the love-bomb signs to look for in any relationship. Because you definitely don't want your heart mixed up in one of these highly manipulative situations.
8 signs your relationship is really just a string of love bombs
1. Your partner makes you believe you could do "better"
It’s normal for your partner to want the best for you, but that doesn’t mean criticizing everything in your life in the name of "helping you out." According to licensed psychotherapist Michele Paiva, a love-bomber expresses what they love about you by placing you on a high pedestal, but when they want more of your attention, they’ll knock down people or things in your life to make you believe you deserve more. Read More…
