How to Get Over a Breakup Fast
As unfortunate as it may seem, not all relationships are meant to last forever. Breakups are, thus, inevitable in this world. They happen and are quite painful. To many people, breakups bring a feeling of intense sadness, loneliness, and distress. [1.] These feelings are unhealthy and should not stay within us for too long. We, therefore, have to find ways to get over a breakup before it leaves permanent scars on us. In this article, I will be exploring how to get over a breakup fast.
1. Give Yourself the Go-ahead to Move On
You may have loved your partner so much that you begin to feel like moving on after a breakup is betraying what you two shared. Or you may just be in denial, unbelieving that the relationship has come to an end. Denial is one of the stages of grief [2.] and is not uncommon when people go through breakups.
Whatever the case, you have to come to the reality of things. You have to acknowledge, no matter how difficult it seems, that your relationship has ended and that you have a right to move on. Take away every toxic shame and every feeling of disloyalty when you think about moving on.
Give yourself the go-ahead to move past these intense breakup feelings.
2. You are Human and Have a Right to Feel
Some years ago, a friend spoke to me about the effect of a breakup on her. She said, “I feel like I shouldn’t even feel this way. Why should I even feel this way?” My response was: “You are human, that’s why.”
As you move past this breakup, understand that you are human, and one thing about being human is to have feelings. You don’t become stronger by suppressing your feelings—in fact; you become even more stressed and irritable. [3.] Physical stress can result from bottling in your feelings for too long because what builds up is usually a toxic and harmful resentment.
Allow yourself to cry. People cry when they are hurt. You are hurt now, and you have a right to cry. You also have a right to feel deep anger—whatever feelings need to go out have to be let out, as long as they don’t cause harm to you or the people around you.
Expressing feelings is sure going to help you move on.
3. Stop The Blame Games
When a relationship ends, one of the many things that happen is that one party starts to blame the other for everything that happened. Whilst this may be a coping mechanism, it is quite unhealthy. It is an unhealthy practice to blame people for the way we feel.
True, someone may be the cause of our pain and anger. But that someone isn’t our responsibility. We are our own responsibility and should focus on our own healing instead of finding ways to tell the other person how trash they are.
Stop blaming your ex, and stop blaming yourself for the breakup that happened.
It may have been your fault that the relationship ended. But what is done is done, and now it is time to move on. The toxic guilt is only going to hold you back.
One of the ways to offer yourself some relief is to understand that no one knows all. Tell yourself that you could have done better if you had known. But you didn’t know better, and it is fine. You’ll learn from this.
4. Stop Stalking Your Ex
Emotional wounds are a lot like physical ones in that they take some time to heal. Also, they require that you take the irritant way for the healing to take place. If you keep irritating a physical wound that is healing, you’ll end up opening it once more, and now the healing process will have to start over and over.
If you want to get over your breakup fast, you should stop irritating your wounds. You should let them be. One of the ways you can irritate your wounds is stalking your ex or going back to look at all the memories you both had shared.
Too many people stalk their exes. An estimated 88 percent of people stalk their exes on Facebook. Don’t be one of these.
Stop stalking your ex. Let them go, and let them move on with their own lives. Keep reminding yourself that you can’t go back in time and change things. What you both had is gone.
5. Move on For You, Not to Impress nor Oppress
The worst thing that can happen to anyone is losing sight of why they have to move on after a breakup.
Here is why you need to move on after that breakup: because you have to process your feelings and get your life back together. Not because you want your ex to see how well you are doing without them.
Let me ask this: if you are trying to move on just so your can ‘see’ that you are doing just fine on your own, isn’t that just giving someone else power over you?
The truth is, we give power to people when we try to impress them because we might have a bad reaction when they fail to be impressed.
Move on from that breakup for you. Do it for yourself. Read More…
